One of my good blogfriends said she enjoyed reading my blog, because I wrote honestly, that I shared my thoughts and feeling., and it seemed like that was one of her favorite things about my blog.. So I wanted to do something on a specific topic.
I’ve been thinking about doing this entry for a long time, mostly because it is a topic that is very important to me, and because i’ve seen both sides of it..
I’d also like for everyone to voice their opinions, and even be inspired to write about something like this themselves, I’m not saying tell your story (unless you want to), but this is at least something I know inspire me to voice my opinion, I hope you voice yours too
Every schoolyard in every country has them, the one lonely soul lurking in the shadows, knowing someone won’t notice, hoping he or she won’t remain invisible forever, that someone wants to talk to them, maybe today is the day when their loneliness ends .
It is one of the biggest traumas you can put a young child through, being left outside, making them feel like they don’t deserve a chance in this world. I know myself that I was a part of doing that to someone when I was in primary school and up till I was about 11.
I wasn’t directly freezing someone out, on the contrary I was one of the few who found time for this sad soul once in a while. However I did little to help her, I was a part of plotting towards skipping her birthday, untill my mum told me if I did that I’d be grounded for a month. She told me it wasn’t acceptable to treat another person this way, the way most of us kids had treated this girl all the way through school, if those few of us who had made sort of an effort with her sometimes throughout the years let her down she’d be completely broken..I didn’t see it then, but I definitely see it now, that everything my mum said at the time was completely right, but kids are blind to those things.. It wasn’t her fault she was different, no one should be left out just because they stutter or because they have an illness, or just because maybe they’ve made a mistake.. they deserve that chance as much as any other kid.. Sadly I don’t have any contact with her now, but I’ve heard she’s doing well, that she’s got friends and that she’s happy
I know this now because I’ve also been on the other side, I made a mistake and I paid for it, I really paid for it.. I lost my best friend in the process, we had been friends since we were 6, and even though we patched things up eventually, we don’t keep in contact now.
But because of this mistake and misunderstanding, I spent about half a school year being the girl in the shadows, praying that someone would notice me, praying that someone would want to spend time with me. Thankfully I had an observant teacher and she helped me and those the whole issue really involved work things out and sure we don’t stay in touch regularly, as i told you, but we get along and we’re civil and there’s no hard feelings, we were kids, kids makes mistakes. Sometimes horrible mistakes, and because you’re young you don’t realise why it was so bad in the first place.
But those 6 months, they were painful, I don’t think I would’ve been able to handle 6 years of it. It made me realise how strong this other girl was, how much she’d had to fight against.
It’s been almost 10 years now, I do believe this experience has made me a stronger person, even though I sometimes loose faith (as you all know), but I was lucky, to have a teacher who saw me, who noticed, she picked me up when I wanted to give up and that helped me have a good last years in Secondary school..but so many children doesn’t have anyone like that.. they suffer in silence, it’s not fair..
I guess what I am saying is see them, notice them, care about them.. Especially if you’re a teacher or work with children or adolescents, i know all you can do is try your best, but show them that they deserve to be included.
There’s nothing worse than a blind eye..
so please see them..